Question 10 - Positively impactful situations be like...

Question Ten – What comments &/ situations with others, in regards to your “single status” impact you the most positively?

Donna

Seeing married people and how busy their lives are, so I go with stay single because married life is hectic!

Alyss

People remembering me; like with an invitation to something I can attend. Over the last decade, I invited people, or organized to meet up,or organized to stay overnight at a friend’s place so I can actually catch up with them, it’s very seldom the other way around. I am super grateful for the friends who genuinely make the effort to come and see me, and spend their time with me for that, not just for two birds with one stone (although, don’t get me wrong, I still appreciate that effort too!). Genuine effort to spend time - few and far between, and thus it is more precious to me. Another thing, and I guess this will fit with the next question, thoughtfulness. Like a friend who always checks what food is going to be ok with all my dietary annoyances. Like a friend who messages me on my Dad’s birthday to say she is thinking of me on my Dad’s heavenly birthday. On my own it’s hard, but when someone else cares and reaches out, it makes so much difference. A third thing: personal WatsApp check-ins to see that I am ok; those are kind, thoughtful and appreciated. Fourth: People who pay attention and remember my previous chats with them and follow up. Very few people actually pay attention to what others say, what I say. So, a previous Art teacher of mine who has continually checked in on my wrist healing – which has been going on painfully for over 8 months – makes my heart smile and helps me know that I am not actually as alone as my evenings feel when she asks how my wrist is doing. Words of encouragement and being remembered and thought of with action that matches it, I guess that sums up my paragraph answer.

CJ

My supportive family and their being proud of my achievements, i.e. buying my home by myself.

KA

I enjoy being the captain of my own ship, sailing my own canoe. I can come and go as I please, I can spend quality time with family and friends, I can dedicate my time to worthy causes, and I can become more fully my own person, instead of someone’s ‘other half’.

NH

It is encouraging when others acknowledge my independence and determination in terms of overcoming difficulties or challenging situations, especially those that would traditionally be viewed as tasks for “the men” to deal with.

Lizanne

I have truly amazing friends, who support us from time to time with groceries and special treats that I would never have been able to afford myself.

Many people say that they don’t know how I manage and I always reply that many times I don’t and that I’ve had to learn that that is also ok. To be able to give testimony of my story to those around me is really a privilege and this definitely motivates and uplifts me.

C.B.

A number of my friends who are in long-term relationships envy my ability to make my own decisions.I am able to travel alone when I wish to and I am not dependent upon someone else vito’ing my plans.