Question 15 - Is men's upbringing disabling them for the 21st century woman...

Question Fifteen – Do you think men’s younger upbringing helps or disables them from unity with a 21^st century  woman? Why / why not?

Donna

If he, like a female, is brought up properly, there would be no question that their upbringing would help them. However, I blame the break-up of nuclear families where there is no male role model to look up to, for when men become less able.

Alyss

I am going with a yes, it does, but maybe, slowly, that can change and moms will get their sons to wash the dishes and mop the floors too. I can only speak from personal experiences. One conversation went like this: “I do all the housework for my son, because he will have lots of years where he will have to do it.” Then my observations through co-ed schools, universities and the working world go like this: females were the leads in group work, girlfriends doing homework for their boyfriends, moms doing their homework and even running to school with forgotten items during the day, colleagues taking the workload for men, men taking credit for women’s work, girlfriends and moms doing dirty laundry for the men in their lives… where the girls got on with it themselves, with mother’s not helping. Many 21^st century women aren’t up for being the sole laundromat and dish-washer, but, then again, many are… so once again, to each their own.

CJ

Depends on the culture, religion and location of the man’s upbringing. A man’s values and expectations are set by his parent/s and men brought up in homes with the belief that women are there to serve their husbands will definitely affect the man’s ability to deal with a 21^st century woman.

If the men were brought up in a household with a strong female role model, they will more likely be more inclined to understand, respect and appreciate an independent, powerful woman, rather than be intimidated, confused and feel threatened by them.

Alexa

I think it doesn’t affect how they are able to cope with 21^st century women.  If they grew up with a working mother and a father who helped in the home, then they are more able to cope.  If they grew up with a male dominated household where women did all the work in the home and waited on men, then they don’t cope with modern women who expect them to bring their part.

KA

A man’s upbringing most certainly influences his ability to form relationships. My Dad always told us: watch how your boyfriend treats his Mum and watch how your boyfriend’s Dad treats his Mum – that is a fairly good indication of the example he has grown up with and his attitude towards women in general.

NH

I think that in the more conservative culture I was raised in, it was true that men and women had expected roles in society, and a woman who was financially independent and who lived alone might have been viewed as unacceptably strong-willed and living in a way which raised eyebrows.  Times have changed a lot since then, and I think men are now more comfortable with the idea of a woman who can live independently, even when in a relationship.

C.B

This is hard to answer as my take is that every person can change and adapt. There is enough information out there for a person, male or female, to decide if they are stereotypical or not. A family can have 3 children of the same sex, and all 3 can turn out to choose to live differently.Don’t play the blame game on your upbringing for who you are today.