Question Twenty-Six - Challenges and how to overcome them?

Question Twenty Six – What has been the biggest challenge you have faced regarding the living out of this ‘single status’ part of your story? How have you overcome it?

Donna

The biggest challenge was being invited to a wedding etc with a plus one.

Alyss

I think the comparative trap has been the hardest part. If I look at my life and choices, I made the choices that landed me where I am, and others made different choices with their own challenges. So, I have to stop the idealistic, brain-made version I often have on how perfect everyone else’s life is when compared to mine. If I keep societal expectations and cultural norms out of my head, then it isn’t as big a challenge to keep focused on a bigger purpose for where I am in life right now. I try and move my brain away from the idea of retirement and that can of worms… and the medical emergency worm hole… I distract myself and focus on the now, which is the only reality, and now, it is well.

CJ

Occasional loneliness and carrying the financial burden of supporting myself alone. It’s taken numerous crappy jobs working very long hours to finally get to a place where I was able to purchase my home. I do still worry about ending up alone in my old age, but that’s ok as if I am meant to meet someone, I will. If not, I have so much love to give to my fur babies.

Alexa

Being a Christian and choosing not to have sex before marriage – most men don’t understand or respect that. It makes it difficult to date when there’s an expectation you won’t fulfill. 

NH

Definitely the sense of loneliness is the hardest.  Some days can seem especially dark.  I have learned to embrace my quiet time alone – it allows me to be productive, and to engage in pastimes I enjoy, like solo walking and reading.  I have learned to reach out to others socially; it pays to make some effort.

Lizanne

Loneliness, fear of failure, the weight of being solely responsible for 3 young lives. I have not overcome it. This is a daily journey.

C.B.

This is my life.Being satisfied with how I have what I need in the form of family and friends ensures that there are not many obstacles to overcome.