Git!
Tue, 2006-08-29 19:59
#1
Git!
... no he isn't really.
But my youngest brother has at the age of 17 just passed his driving test first time.
I was learning last year (aged 28) but went into hossie before I managed to take my test. It is definitely on the list of things I must do and soon, I daydream of the freedom it will give me.
Generally, I don't have huge regrets about my mis-spent youth and the fact that I am thirty years old with not a lot to show for my life except substantial brain damage.
However, when I look at aforementioned bro, and all his A star GCSEs and A levels and driving license and piano grades I have to work hard at acceptance!
archergirl
You just need to stop comparing yourself to other people, jude, full-stop. It's an exercise in futility and bad feelings! You are you and you are a part of something bigger, and you AS you are enough in and of yourself! And you AS you write some cracking good poems, so there...
styx
I passed my test at 32 but only after 11 lessons. 2 of which I was sober. I was sober on the test though.
poetjude
yeah, I know! It is easier said than done. It is just a fleeting wistfulnes rather than a full-blown session of big Cs. My ego tries to seperate me from other people by the big Cs
Comparing
Controlling
Criticising
Competing
I try not to waste energy on regret and be thankful for my lot but I am only human!
Thanks for the affirmations about my poetic abilities. Even with that I remember what Fergal once said to me. Its not about being a writer but about loving writing!
jude
"Cacoethes scribendi"
http://www.judesworld.net
archergirl
We are all guilty of the big Cs! Especially with siblings, close friends, etc.
I think being aware of it is a huge step toward vanquishing it!
poetjude
I agree. When I realised and admitted just how screwed up I am, everything started to make sense!
jude
"Cacoethes scribendi"
http://www.judesworld.net
archergirl
My, I guess you'd call him a spiritual counsellor, says that the best way to get rid of disagreeable Cs in one's attitude is to starve them of their power, not by resisting them, but by laughing at them heartily. Amazingly, it works.
hox
Couldn't agree more. Disagreeable Cs should be mocked.
maddan
I reckon I compare myself to other people way less than Jude does.
styx
When did 'way less' enter our canon when 'far less' was good enough. And why does EVERYONE on TV when replying in the affirmative to a question say 'absolutely!' when a simple 'yes' would suffice?
mississippi
Whilst word usage is in the spotlight, why do 'actresses' call themselves 'actors' now, and how long has this been going on?
joe glass
It's probably been going on ever since women acted, it's just other people insisted on 'tressing' them to demean their status through language.
Just a thought.
mississippi
Oh come on, women have ALWAYS acted, well ever since they invented the headache at least!
Um, how does using the feminine version of a word demean them anyhow?
neilmc
I don't think many writers seem to have achieved all that much in other areas, or sustained the achievements they've made - I've booked on a local writers' group week away and so far I'm the only one paying the full "employed persons" fee. All right I've got a good job with the bank but all it does is give me a reasonable standard of living, I would walk away from it today if I had the means to do so and that's when things are going well.
Good writing ability you've got in spades, Jude, and nobody can take that away from you.
archergirl
Maybe women invent headaches because the alternative just ain't that great, did you ever consider that?
styx
Would you call a female carpenter a carpenteress? I played with many female musicians both literally and figuratively - sorry I've just had a cup of testosterone - and never felt the urge to call them musicianesses. I think in the field of acting the word actress has overtones of the casting couch, so has a very subtle demeaning quality to it. One of my heroes in tennis is Martina Navratilova. See it works!
joe glass
I realise many languages have feminine, masculine or neutral words, but English isn't really one of them. I prefer actor. The 'ress' added to things is a waste of good ink. Authoress, for example, is just plain grating.
As for poetjude - I am sure there are many things you have achieved that your brother is jealous of. You wouldn't guess what they are because you can't see them from the outside, just as he can't see himself from the outside.
I would suggest you are perfect as you are. And am living proof that it's better to live life rising on an incline than peaking early. Nobody wants to be harking back to when they were 13 as the time of their life, do they?