Question 11 - What's the hardest part about it?

Question Eleven – What comments &/ situations with others, in regards to your “single status” impact you the most negatively?

Donna

That I won’t have any children in old age to look after me.

Alyss

I am not sure if it is a chauvinist thing, or a single lady thing, but being patronized and treated like I am less capable than others, is not cool. Fortunately, my life experiences and personal achievements are more than ample evidence for my self-esteem to know that I am as capable as others in doing many things.

Gifts, lots of people don’t think about what they are giving. Receiving a restaurant voucher for two when you are single is a tough gift to be happy about.

Not being invited because people aren’t sure how to deal with me in a place where there are couples is a negative experience. I will most likely turn down the invite if it arrived, as I get the situation, but being thought of is better than being excluded and left out, especially with social media and all the platforms that tell me I have been left out and am not wanted.

Being told that a guy is coming for me one day, and I will ‘get there’ is unhelpful… I had a class I taught of over a dozen girls who prayed for over 2 years that God would bring me a match… that was over 16 years ago, because the girls believed that women should be paired off, and that’s God’s will. The space of revealing to someone that you think God has forgotten about them, or that they have no purpose because they have no children, is really unkind from my perspective.

No, just because someone is single, does not mean they need to be questioned about their sexual orientation.

CJ Schiemann

I’ve been single for a very long time, so no-one really asks me about it or comments on my single status. So, feeling like I cannot go on holiday alone, is the only negative situation I can think of.

Alexa

When I had a colleague who was talking about someone getting married and told me I must hurry up because I was getting left behind – that was not helpful at all.  It sent me into a real funk.  As if ‘getting married’ is what all women have to do.

KA

Sometimes I do miss having Someone Special to share things with, that Someone who loves and understands you so completely; in the situations of: a Valentine, a Plus One, your ‘Other Half’.

NH

I have heard comments passed when people, often women, assume all single women have chosen this path.  I wish they could be more empathetic and realise that most people wouldn’t choose to face life alone.  Everyone has to make the most of the life situation they are dealt.

Lizanne

We are not invited over to people’s homes, because of numbers, I guess. It’s not just me they’d be inviting, but my 3 children as well.

Meeting single men is challenging, because the minute they hear about my 3 children, they run.

I have to fight for everything I need, as life is definitely not easy. Every decision I make, I have to keep my children in mind, finances in mind, logistics in mind – it’s just a lot.

C.B.

I don’t dwell on negative.So this is not something I can answer.