Bent will (21st May 2008, 4.06pm)
I will not alter myself to fit you, that is:
I will not modify myself when I’m around you
I will dress the way I feel comfortable
I will speak in the manner I’m accustomed to
I will laugh as loudly as I usually do
I will enjoy the same level of inappropriateness
I will flirt with all your friends
I will, in short, be myself at all times, and
I will not change if that self offends
I will not become the person you may want me to
I will not suppress my opinions
I will not falsify a veneer of political correctness
I will not play the meek before your parents
I will not pretend to like someone that annoys
I will not act differently around the boys
I will, in short, be the same person that I am now, and
You will love me, because you fell for me.
I will find you. Somehow.
Comments
animan | May 21, 2008 - 15:26
Go for it!
jennifer | May 21, 2008 - 22:16
A girl can only hope!
animan | May 23, 2008 - 17:14
Well, yes - and likewise for a bloke? But, what are you hoping for? Is it love without any form of required accommodation? Maybe that's a good thing - I'm not sure. Is it hoping to be loved without being required to love in return? Is love often necessarily accommodation? Is being loved without any requirement of accommodation the greater love? Is that what you are saying? Is sex (for a woman) a kind of accommodation, necessarily? Is the (functional) necessity for sexual accommodation (in a woman) to be accommodated by non-accommodation in all other respects? Is love a necessity of bending will? I ask questions not because I know the answer but because I don't know the answer. I speak from the innocence of psyche here, not the logic of thought.
jennifer | May 26, 2008 - 22:12
My ex-boyfriend changed me, turning me into somebody that neither of us liked. I hated who I became when I was with him, and now it's over, I am me again, and we get on fantastically once more. I need to be with somebody who allows me the room to be me, and accepts me and loves me for who I am. In return, I will do the same. We should not be forced to 'accommodate' love. As an optimistic fatalist, I believe that one day, I shall meet the person who is right for me. This I offer as my explanation!
animan | May 30, 2008 - 21:03
'I need to be with somebody who allows me the room to be me, and accepts me and loves me for who I am. In return, I will do the same.'
Yes - I wish that for you.
And indeed - I wish that for me.
Those are good thoughts - and to be absolutely respected.