A Tribute to Terry!

Well, you are listening certainly and suffering in the watching; and if he is praying, be sure God hears. We can't see the reason for delays, but we don't see everything, do we, and if we were in charge, what things might get missed that are beyond our knowledge. I pray he won't only see Sylvia, but even more wonderful the face of a welcoming Saviour who had supported him, but now draws him near.
The title you've chosen says a lot for his handling of his suffering; the 'teaser'– "The tragedy of a life not wanted" I suppose is referring to his desire to leave it now: maybe it is just a little longer, – maybe he'll even be able to encourage others during this short wait.
Rhiannon

How sad. A terrible dilemma emotionally expressed in your poem Moya. Brought tears to my eyes. No-one should suffer like this. A powerful piece.
Linda

new DenZella
Yes,how sad! Moya,
but what a great writer,to express
everthing,you felt and saw and seen.
Facts of life so much like this,now it seems.
"The Good Samaritan". Only one stopped by to help!
So the bible says! I walked up near seven dial,there
was a dear,man hardly could put one foot in front the other,head net low walk,and stick think! maybe a fag!
Two women went by,know one,stopped see needed touch!
help! I had too,even hold his arm,smiled thank you,said ok! People friend's and families have go through all,don;t they,so much more told,and explaining done now? I hope be free! pain soon!
I have seen so much and experienced myself too,but in giving we recieve.
take care!
Have a cool weekend. phew!
julie x

Hello Rhiannonw,

Thank you so much for reading and commenting on this poem. I'm afraid I don't have the same conviction that you have although I do believe in a God, it's just religion, all religions, that I have an issue with. But I hope when he does see his Sylvia again he will also see a welcoming Saviour.Yes, the title does refer to the brave way he has dealt with this horrible disease but it hasn't been a little wait. It has gone on for a long time and all the while he only wanted to be with his Sylvia. He came home from Australia as his illness progressed so that he would be near to where she was buried when his time came.

Thank you for reading and giving such a compassionate response.

Moya

Hello Linda,

Thank you for reading and commenting on this poem as it is one very dear to my heart not because of any technical style but because over the years I have seen Terry's suffering and know how devastated he was to lose his Sylvia at only fifty six. She was my best friend and I thought the world of them both.

Thanks once again for the read and comment.

Moya

Hello dear Julie,

I was feeling a bit sad when I started to reply to comments about this poem not because of the comments but because I kept picturing Terry alone in his flat waiting for God! But your kind words have lifted my spirits no end so thank you for that. 'In giving we receive' well I certainly hope you receive because
you do always seem to be giving.

Thank you,

Moya

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new Denzella
Hello! Dear, Moya.
Course you felt sad and worse!
Sometimes like you and me,sensitive people,
and suffered. Or big families,had be there! in all
circumstances. At this moment, the beautiful furry! one,so hard to take,told aging fast!! etc;
My belated mum loved sing indoors,when I was young!
"Mother Hear My Tears Are Falling". And guide my heart my aching heart!
Words of "My Heart will go on and on?"
Your near far,wherever you are,and my heart will go on and on".
For wonderful furry! one been advised!! Ageing
Wish! prayed had in yesterday, if he can stand by me,in terrible two black eyes,accident,etc; I can and will him!
Mine just says "Only a cat?? No his love to me and all he gives, us,amazing?? Owner let's me have in some years,now been allowed.
You know who mean,break from "Singing for pleasure"
"Simon Grey",this week, hope be stronger next week!
Going back starts new course for all. Loads photos of furry one too! Gutted! Seemed stronger after in,nap and forehead massaged, and whisper chat! him.
Cries back to me seems ridiculous! But knows who to go too!
Heard cry! out last night! Okay today. Animals are animals,but give comfort love and affection! Hope get too "Singing for pleasure! If get feeling lump in throat
you know tear drops voice not be good. "Simon Grey" one of songs,is,"My Heart Will Go On And On! "Jazz" stopped with us,five hours yesterday, tears dropping
thinking ageing one day! whoops! While I'm stroking him! pop! back bedroom,say "You ok" curls,into ball of love, back toes,curl up to front.
Just reminds me belated pop! all round bed,mostly me there! 6 months to year! gone! happens to many! Also
no matter who or what pet! animal all terribly miss one day! We went Eastbourne other day there in charity shop! book called, "How Too Talk To Animals
No! didn't buy, animals respond when show care and love. "Jazz" different cries! Just like human beings.
Give touch and time,most will respond,or just listen! I maybe OTT with "Jazz" But most unusual cat! Ever known! Although we had many pets as children! Only use names. And "Jazz" loves the touch! Have a good weekend. I never had in when on my own,do now! Years. But like Jesus call him by his name! says.
So far! Took four calls,from me other day,in shop pathway,wouldn't move or come! But did yesterday. And in for 40th and photoed with wonderful. I know not my cat! Everything done or do or poems,asked owner okd! delighted I have in if not about! You know what I mean! We seem have the touch of love each other! Therapy is great for all.
bless you sometimes we all have to suffer,give to others or do something them,unconditional love!
When mine was out,sport! 5 8 hours, "Jazz" in with me! We if bit late,put out go home! Sometimes now come for hour and ask go.
But Sunday hoped to see,yep! great responded in shop pathway and ran to me! seemed refreshed! had in 5 hours nap stroking him,
back later made my day! So many people are alone, Now say cat and dog great therapy for /n/homes,gentle ones or maybe stroke patients.
When mention if giving we receive, sometime we have ourselves experienced so much. can turn it around,
someone,no hope or cure! whoever whatever! Cross many bridges,married single and children if life!
Children love "Jazz" say to me,you always have that cat in, I reply he is a very very special cat!
Sun is peeping! through,hold some one hand,sit by!
Listen good therapy. Read and had so much healing done! "Kiss of Peace" was used in church then! or hand shake! bit cold! "To give and not to count the cost". "When I feel the touch,of you upon my life!
it brings me love and joy" had it all. Hymn think!
So deep within my spirit clings to you,and I love you Lord". Not been year busy! Prayer powerful.
"Jazz" just won me £10. I think his spirit,and me link together always here,and Ray have on his lap to now. No not a load of tripe! if he is busy, say no! "Jazz" quite often jumps down go, after his nap! and stokes from me. Cos he knows where love can come from and who and where! I always do what owner says.
These are two books read amazing long ago church found or bought!
A Ministry of the Miraculous George Jeffreys
E.C.W. Boulton Editor Chris Cartwright.
When all is dark dim and fails.
And Jennifer Rees Larcombe "Unexpected Healing.
Foreward by sir Harry Secombe. Lady paralysed in wheelchair,throws all away one day! And finds joy love with family. One never knows,who god will touch! Can happen!
Take care and many blessings to you!
julie xx

So heart breaking, Moya. I wish there was an easy answer to dilemmas such as this. Must not have been easy to write. That's what i love about writing, I think it helps us to deal better with life's unexpected twists. You handled the subject beautifully.

Rich

Hello hudsonmoon,

Thank you for reading this poem and for your kind comments. This couple, Sylvia and Terry used to own the village shop and they were such fun people. Then they hit some problems and so came to live with us for the whole of one summer and that cemented our friendship. The weather that year was amazing and we had a great time with them. It is why seeing Terry as he is now is so utterly heartbreaking and Sylvia was lost to Terry and to us some time ago.

You are right though about the writing it does somehow help us to deal with the ups and downs of life.

Sorry about writing a book but when it comes to comments my attitude seems to be why write one word when ten will do!

Anyway, Thank you, Rich,

Moya

Hi Moya,

I think you've written this so well, I can
see it was a hard piece to write.

Can't imagine suffering like this man, trying
to carry on each day, knowing your health is
never going to be the same.

It's one of those situations that is so hard
to actually understand fully until it happens,
but I hope that Terry can find his peace soon.

Jenny.

Hello Jenny,

Thank you for reading and commenting on this poem and yes it was hard to write but as hudsonmoon says writing somehow makes dealing with life's ups and downs just that little bit easier.

My own way of dealing with sad things once I have managed to write about them is to change direction completely and try to write something that makes me laugh even if I am the only one that finds it funny!

But thank you once again, Jenny

Moya

I've duplicated! What a Plonker!

Hiya Moya, one of my faourite songs to sing at the start or end of the night in karaoke is The First Time. It's a beautiful song and I can well imagine it bringing a tear to people's eyes at a funeral. I make people cry every time I sing it, but if you heard me you'd realise it's not for the right reasons ;-)

A beautiful poem. I hope he gets back to Sylvia soon. This is so beautiful and your sympathy cries off the page. lovely.

Hello Sooz,

How nice of you to read and comment on my poem. I don't believe a word of it when you say your singing brings a tear for all the wrong reasons.

If you like to sing that song then I can't imagine anyone would dare to sing such lovely words with an ugly voice. (To paraphrase Maureen Lipman in Educating Rita)

Got some catching up to do with your work and quite a few others but will get there

MOYA

So sorry to read of this sad situation Moya. It does throw up that question of whether there is any meaning to all this or are we just randomly living through joy and suffering. One thing certain is that he will be glad of your friendship.

Hello Parson Thru,

Thank you for reading and commenting on my poem. Yes life can be hard but it can also have joy in it. When Sylvia was alive there was a lot of laughter and joy although Terry was even then showing symptoms but none of us knew.

Thanks once again for reading.

Moya