Didn't want to be a priest

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Sun, 2005-09-18 03:08

I'm tired and I'm upset. I would not be a priest in a confessional if my life depended on it. F-in-law (the real one, the well meaning one, the one i like) has just told me a load of stuff about his marriage to my m-in-law I now realise i can't tell my husband, because to do so would be to stir up strife and upset and acrimony... so i'm left with the knowledge and i'll have to lie by omission. Thanks a fucking bunch f-in-law, glad you feel better.

Sun, 2005-09-18 20:59

Yutka

You are in a bad situation here, Lou. I can feel how upset you are and your f.in law is absolutely awful talking t you like that! why don't you write about it, analyse it. It will give you plenty of stuff for a story. You came to this site to write, didn't you and it could be your catharsis

Sun, 2005-09-18 21:01

Yutka

Forgive me if that was a "story" but I think it sounded too real

Sun, 2005-09-18 23:45

2Lou

Thanks Yutka. x

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Tue, 2005-09-20 13:55

Corvus

I'd be in a confessional so that when all those repressed catholics banged on about how guilty they were over their last wank or lustful thoughts, I'd be able to tell them that it's all okay because God doesn't exist, so you might as well enjoy yourself while you can. As for your F-I-L telling you all of this...why? Was he drunk? Does he secretly want you to let the cat out of the bag - whatever the cat is? Just how bad was his confession anyway? Was it maybe something to do with the M-I-L? Or both of them? I suppose you can't really say...

Tue, 2005-09-20 16:23

fergal

Are you sure you can't tell your husband? I know that sounds odd, but you are not a priest in a confessional and have not sworn an oath to secrecy or anything. It seems a bit mean of your father in law to burden you with something that will come between you and your husband... Big secrets between partners are not a great thing to have. xx and good luck.

Tue, 2005-09-20 17:43

2Lou

Thanks for the advice. It's a rather messy situation. On reflection, I think I'm going to have to divulge some of it. The incident that would upset him the most is the worst bit, but it also happened a long time ago, his mother wouldn't want it brought up again, I'm absolutely certain about that and the only difference that him knowing would make, would be to ruin the relationship he now has with his father which was a long time in the making. The other stuff is very likely to come up in the near future, so I'll have to tell him about it, even though it's bound to cause stress. The problem is, trying to untangle what I can tell him from what I can't. And now I've delayed telling him anything at all, so he'll be pissed off about that... Anyhow, thanks very much for the ear, chaps. It's been helpful. (P.s. I'd be more than happy for this thread to drop off the front page now, just because there's a zillion to one chance that D might happen to look in. Cheers x)

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