A hundred moments in autism - I said these words to my wife

By Terrence Oblong

Mon, 26 Aug 2024
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I said these words to my wife last night:

“You’re easy to be with,” I said. “I might as well be alone.”

By which I don’t mean that my wife is poor company, with no conversation, contact, affection, I just mean that I can be 100% be myself in her company, no masking.  

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Submitted by HarryC on

Having struggled myself in any kind of cohabiting relationship (and as an autistic person, too), I get this.  You're a lucky man.  My attempts - even my marriage to a woman who meant so much to me - were all unqualified disasters, leaving lots of emotional wreckage behind.  My marriage, sadly, came long before my diagnosis.  It might have helped.  I'll never know.  I live alone now out of choice.  That doesn't mean I surrender all hope of meeting that one person I can be 100% myself with.

Submitted by Terrence Oblong on

Thanks Harry.  An autism diagnosis explains a lot and can help solve problems, or in many cases just make you aware that problems exist. It certainly helps being married to a fellow autist, but regardless I hope you meet someone that makes you feel completely alone in the way that you need it when you need it.