What Is It Like To Have A Dad?

I love that Boots advert, where the Dad, cleans his glasses, puts them on, then his daughter joins him in the car. Her Dad quickly looks her up and down, and says, “What’s him name then?” She says embarrassingly, “Dad!” Then she puts on her glasses, then they look at each other and both smile. That is a perfect daughter dad relationship.

I can’t imagine what that relationship is like. That is the sort of relationship I have never had or experienced.

I can’t imagine a dad’s hug, or a dad worrying about me when I was young and went out, and did a sigh of relief when I returned home. Paul and I do that now with our two kids, when they are out and return in the small hours. We have always done that, our kids don’t appreciate, the stress and worry they put us through. I always say to Daniel and Meghan, “I doesn’t matter what age you are; you will always be our children.” In their eyes, they may see themselves as an adult, but in my eyes, they are my kids.  

I say to my kids often, “If you hurt, I hurt.”

I tell my kids, “I love you,” Often.

I send them a text when they are at work, with their long shifts, so that they will know they are in my thoughts.

When they are at home and I am too, I will cook them breakfast.

We only hug on very special occasions.

I have friends and work colleagues, who put on Facebook, how much they miss their dad, who has passed on. They will say things like “I miss you every day,” Or “Not a day goes by when I don’t think of you.” To love a dad that much, and to no longer have him in their lives, must be heartbreaking. But I don’t know what that feels like.

Some daughters and dads hug, I don’t know what that feels like, having never ever experienced it. But I know it must be nice. I imagine it is.

For that daughter to have a dad, makes Father’s Day very special.

I know that not every daughter, dad relationship is like this, but for those that are, I think they are very lucky.