Maria and the Bellasis Family 27
By jeand
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I feel like there is very little to write in my diary these days, but I should mention weddings and funerals. I have inherited my mother’s arthritis problems, and all movements come with pain these days.
Another family wedding in 1892 was between Mary Lucy Bowring, Lewin’s eldest daughter, and Mr. H J Wald. It was at the Roman Catholic Cathedral in Kennington. My step-mother Lady Bowring came for it, and Edgar’s wife was also there, and her son Algernon. The priest was Rt Rev Monsignor Walk, no doubt a relative of the groom, and with Mary Lucy’s uncle, Rev Richard Bellasis saying the nuptial mass.
She wore an empire gown of white satin trimmed with Brussels Lace, and a train of white brocade, with lace and orange blossom. Her attendants were Clara Talbot, her cousin, and Edith Bowring, her half sister, who is currently attending the convent school at St.Leonard’s on Sea in Sussex where my friend Mother Mary Francis Bellasis is teaching. The bridesmaids wore dresses of French blue trimmed in pink roses. They were given gold horseshoe bangles as a present from the bride’s father, Lewin.
Then started the funerals. In 1893 my brother John Charles had been going downhill for many years, so his death was not a surprise to us. He died at Oaklasts Park Hotel. His wife Mary is considering moving from their huge property to something easier to manage on her own. She still has her daughter Mary Isabel with her who is 22, Charles who is 18 and Walter who is 15. They have 10 servants, so a smaller house will mean they can get by with half the number, I would hope.
His will, which was dealt with by his executors, his wife and oldest son John Frederick Edward Bowring, showed he left £102,858. So Mary will not have to worry about money.
Poor Mary Lucy, whose wedding we had attended not much more than a year ago, died in childbirth. Her son, Charles James Weld, will be cared for by his father and his family who live in Lymington Hampshire. .
I do have one new activity to write about. As I am not able to get about as much as before, I am stuck in the house and occupy my time but doing the same sort of art and craft work that I did when I was living with Deborah. I have been occasionally going to the Royal School for Art Needlework.
The first President was Princess Christian of Schleswig-Holstein, Queen Victoria’s third daughter, known to the Royal School of Needlework as Princess Helena. It began operating in a small room above a bonnet shop in Sloane Street, London, initially employing 20 ladies. They worked large-scale art embroideries including Musica and Poesis by Edward Burne-Jones and work for William Morris and Walter Crane.
I did meet Princes Helena who is very friendly. In addition to being instrumental in the foundation of the School, she was also a founding member of the British Red Cross and President of the Royal British Nurses’ Association.
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Weddings sounded so opulent
Weddings sounded so opulent back then. Everything seemed so gorgeous. Meeting royalty at needlework classes...never a dull moment! Keep 'em coming, Jean. Paul
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Death is horrible where loved
Death is horrible where loved ones are concerned, it must have been incredibly sad for Mary loosing John Charles, especially knowing how ill he was. Thank goodness she had her daughter Mary, along with Charles and Walter, at least that must have been of some reassurance, also knowing she wouldn't have to worry about money was a help.
It sounds like Maria is getting on in years and needing to slow down...a bit like me.
It was fascinating to think she'd met Queen Victoria's third daughter Helena, what an honour that must have been and definitely something to write in her memoirs.
What an incredible journey you've taken us on Jean, with so much history.
Jenny.
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Would have been lovely to see
Would have been lovely to see her needlework! I suspect she would be very careful and quite a perfectionist especially as she was meeting with the specialists.
Somehow those weddings seem to have the money to take the opulance in their stride. I feel so sad when these days there sometimes seems to be so much spent on the wedding, and to make it a huge occasion, at the expense of giving time to preparation for marriage, and advice, even classes to help prepare for the nitty-gritty of coping together with life's ups and downs and irritations. And sometimes there is not only debt from the wedding, but the marriage doesn't last long.
Is this the end of her story?
Rhiannon
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that sounds like a serious
that sounds like a serious amount of money. I mulitiplied it by a 100 in my head to give me some indication of how it would be nowadays. Servants too tell their own story.
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