Teenage Pregnancy: Defying Expectations.
By misskelizabeth
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We're living in the 21st century, yet teenage pregnancy is still frowned upon. I know this better than anyone, walking around the street with a pram and getting disapproving looks. Well, I shall have to prove you all wrong.
For me, growing up was tough. I have impaired hearing, which made my school years difficult. School work was not as hard as facing pupils who called me names and didn't understand that I could talk even though I was merely deaf. Being treated differently was the hardest part. My mum was an alcoholic and she passed away when I was fifteen, just before my GCSE's and just before my pregnancy. Just before I really needed her.
I was sixteen when I fell pregnant. I was in a strong relationship with my eighteen-year-old boyfriend, Dale. We were young and in love, but life wasn't easy. We were teenagers about to become parents, living under his grandmother's roof. We were excited but terrified. Then, our son was born. Leo. He was a miracle, gazing into my baby's eyes during that first cuddle. It was breath taking. To have a life in your hands which is so delicate and completely dependable on you is mind-blowing. He was perfect. He was so perfect that we knew he deserved the best. We did all that we could. Dale worked hard for a recruitment apprenticeship. We decided to get married. It was a beautiful wedding, with my father giving me away and Leo in a suit and all our family and friends surrounding us. But, due to current laws, the council disowned us simply because we were married. We had no choice but to save up all the money we had. We were on our own.
We struggled with money and jobs and having enough time to ourselves and for our son, but we proved that we were not dependent on the council. By my son's first birthday, we had enough money for a lovely two-bedroom flat. Dale became a senior consultant and I managed to complete a health & social care course at college, which meant that I could work as a community carer. Despite long hours, my job was rewarding and made me happy. As a family, we were happy.
We worked hard to be where we are now. If people knew the truth, we wouldn't receive judgmental glares in the street. We went through ups and downs but came out the other side with smiles on our faces. We're expecting our second child now. Our Second Miracle.
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Hi Kate.
Hi Kate.
Your title works really well here - between people's assumptions and the expectancy of pregnancy. Whatever age you start your family it takes a lot of hard work and determination to make it a success. Your story is full of such determination. I was 19 - (looking about 12) through my first pregnancy, and although married with a home, I know what it felt like to get those disapproving glances and occasional comments in the streets from people who didn't know me. It's great to know you are continuing to prove them wrong.
All the best with the new miracle !
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That's uplifting and I adore
That's uplifting and I adore the way it smashes assumptions and predjudices. Well done on all counts.
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It is nice to hear of all
It is nice to hear of all your perseverance. I suppose if there are disapproving glances it is because maybe they have encountered those who want help without any effort. The most disturbing thing was your statement that the council wouldnt help becuase you were married. One would like to see encouragement to all who are really working hard and lovingly to protect their family. Well written and thank you for sharing. warm regards, Rhinnon
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Katie this is a well written
Katie this is a well written piece which puts your point across well. You have been through a lot more than you describe here, and come out the other side as a lovely family unit. You should be very proud.
Linda
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Well done Katie, cherries
Well done Katie, cherries well deserved. I am proud of you for this and everything else.
Linda
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'Excited but terrified'. And
'Excited but terrified'. And how wonderful that you and Dale persevered and have made good from your tough beginnings. Wishing you well with your second miracle. Well done with winning the cherries too Elsie
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