No more brouhaha

CAST LIST:
ME = the day-to-day me, the one who shops, works and pays her bills.
MYSELF = is that point of consciousness outside of me, my personality if you like, that takes a more objective view of my life.
I = my link with spirit which comes on the heels of meditation, or in the throes of a meditative state when I am on the computer.
(For more explanation read 'Me, myself and I' in this collection.)
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ME: 5 am in a bright summer dawn. Work and anxieties on my mind and mild pain, making sleep impossible. How easy is it going to be to keep the awareness of spirit alive when (unlike the first entry) creativity is flowing once again and work appointments are in my diary?

I: How possible is it to cut spirit out of your life once you have made that connection? Think back to yesterday in the midst of a very difficult conversation with someone in distress what happened?

ME: I felt myself pull back emotionally from the web of distress that she was weaving, it was as if there was a physical space between my ear and my emotions and I was able to take a deep breath and let her continue, while listening, but without getting my feelings inflamed by her distress.

I: So what would you call that?

ME: Professional detachment.

I: Indeed and that is a skill you have developed, but the initiative came from you being able to step aside and that, in your case, was developed through meditation. When you step your personality to one side you let something else happen. You increase your awareness of what is actually going on for the person. What happened yesterday when you took adopted that detached position?

ME: We got to the heart of the issue.

I: Did you have to do anything, did you have to lead her?

ME: No, she went there herself. But staying engaged is the key here. Professional detachment can become indifference.

MYSELF: In this space there is no room for me, my opinions and my desire to push the conversation to a conclusion almost our of boredom.

I: Exactly, you have stepped to one side but kept your perception and your awareness open. Yesterday I asked you to consider what your dialogues with spirit had added to your life and that skill, that you now label 'professional detachment' is one of the benefits. It is a skill that many therapists develop in a technical sense, but what you also have is that conscious intuition that is tapping into the universal mind.

In that space, when your personality stands back, connections are made that you are not aware of. You are moving your mind and that of the person to whom you are speaking closer together and a path of understanding is being developed between the two of you. Her clarity at the end of that long conversation yesterday came in part because of that subtle connection. Did you feel you were active in the conversation?

ME: At times yes, but when she was making the shifts I was almost silent.

I: That is the point. It is when you are able to shift your focus to the force field being created by the words she is speaking, that you give life to the energetic signature that is her conversation, and then the fog of her emotions, her protective shield of claim and counter claim begins to fall away and you are able to reach into the heart of the problem, and she was able to name the real cause of her distress.

It is no different than driving through the streets of London and sensing the distress of the people on the bombed bus some weeks later. This is a difficult concept for us to describe.

In any conversation with another person you are dealing with the three aspects of them, just as your morning meditations are attempting to align on paper the three aspects of your self. But, in distress, their aspects are not likely to be in agreement or even alignment. Their personality might be fighting with the soul, and their practical aspect will be watching every word to try and double guess the impression they are creating on the receiver.

So how many aspects of yourself would you want to add to that mix?

What works is engaging one, the 'I' for it is from that place, that you yourself are energetically centred and eventually, when all the emotion and the brouhaha has settled, your point of focus will illuminate what is in their heart, both to you and to them.

It is in the moment that you need to be in touch with your compassion, your patience and your integrity because that precious drop of truth needs to be instantly recognised and nurtured. It is only from the 'I' that that level of focus can be guaranteed, and it is only from the 'I' that that level of focus will not be completely exhausting and draining, because in the 'I' you are tapping into universal energy that is both sustaining and enlightening.