Do Unto Others - Turning the criticism of your mate around

Relationships are a struggle. I date one who has money, a career, and a future, and that is important to a relationship. However, another excites me physically, sex is amazing and yet with another, I find that I am in “love”, the feelings are hot and deep. All three things are necessary in a relationship: money, sex, and love. Just as I'm getting discouraged that anyone will meet all three criteria with equal abandon, a flash of 20/20 hindsight blinds my disillusionment. I recall the "speck in your neighbors eye, log in your own" parable. To obey this lesson, I take the measure I expect of my mate and use it to judge myself. How do I rate in these three areas? Perhaps by disciplining myself and excelling in each category, I will draw another who is doing likewise; like building a bird house in particular style to attract a bird of a certain species. Practicing this wisdom, I lay down my magnifying glass that I use to criticize my potential suitors and I look in the mirror at the inequities in my life. By addressing my own issues I hope to one day meet another who is doing likewise or perhaps to see clearer, that the one close to me, may already be the perfect match.

First written in opinionsofeye.com (http://www.opinionsofeye.com/2012/01/do-unto-others-turn-criticism-of-yo...)