Eleven Thousand Silent Playmates
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By Turlough
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Eleven Thousand Silent Playmates
Gravestones leant against the red brick wall like dockers waiting for work. For a long time now, the dockers have all been redundant or dead, but in the industrial boomtown of Middlesbrough in the early 1960s, only the cemetery was redundant and its dead were all but forgotten.
We’d play tigs-off-ground, jumping up onto those of the stones that leaned the least vertically. There for a few seconds we were safe from the powers of the person who was ‘it’. Most were old and often decorated with mosaics of lichen. All had names and dates engraved that we never took the trouble to read. The ones I remember most vividly are the ones that looked relatively new and perhaps discarded too soon.
‘You know you’re playing on top of dead bodies!’ adults passing by would shout at us, usually laughing but sometimes having expressions of horror on their ashen faces. But that couldn’t possibly be true. It was only a five-minute walk from the street of Victorian terrace houses in which most of us lived. Deprived of gardens, this patch of green seemed the perfect safe place to congregate. A small slice of peaceful countryside on our doorsteps. Thoughts of embellishing the grownups’ warnings by making up ghost stories to scare our peers, as you might expect from excitable young children, never entered our heads. We didn’t know the truth.
Almost a lifetime later I wrote a poem about meeting there with friends as seven-year-olds. Our group included a girl who assured us that she was going to marry George Harrison. Beatlemania had just got off the ground then but Patricia’s head had elevated much further up into the clouds. She was the first person I knew at school to feel the sting of a nun’s wooden ruler across the palm of her hand. The reason for this being that she had written I Luv George on the front cover of her sums book. I could remember her very well, I could remember our gang of friends playing on the swings and roundabouts in the park, but I couldn’t remember the name of the park. My writing seemed incomplete without it. So I fired up the internet machine, did a bit of rooting around and found some information that stunned and amazed me.
I read on the website of the Teesside newspaper, the Northern Echo, an article written in 2010 by a journalist called Julia Breen. She had reported that a local historian by the name of Steve Waller had extensively researched the history of Ayresome Cemetery. This was the very place where we would go to talk about Batman, eat Spangles and sometimes tune in to Patricia’s ramblings about her ongoing love affair with one of Britain’s four foremost pop stars. I was pleased to have established the name of the location, albeit a fairly obvious one, but I was fascinated by what followed in the article.
From a collection of archive documents, the researcher had discovered that since it was opened in 1854, more than 11,000 people had been buried in the graveyard. These had included some of the poorest members of the town’s population, some who had been mentally insane and many who had died from epidemics. It also contained the graves of a significant number of wealthy citizens such as politicians, industrialists, merchants and even the children of Middlesbrough’s founding fathers.
The cemetery had been opened to meet the needs of the town’s rapid expansion in the nineteenth century but in 1962, as even greater expansion took off and many old buildings we destroyed to make way for social and economic progress, it too became a victim. Graves and vaults were covered up or sealed, tombstones were uprooted and stacked around the perimeter, and its two neo-classical-style chapels were destroyed. The site became Ayresome Gardens, our idyllic playground.
I don’t remember there being a basketball court. Perhaps that was built later, on the spot where in my day there had been a football pitch. So I was shocked to learn that Mr Waller had unearthed evidence to suggest that dozens of cholera victims were buried beneath it, and that a nearby car park concealed the graves of fourteen children.
As children ourselves, we never paid much attention to those who warned us about the dead who lay beneath our new recreation area. The long rows of unloved headstones leaning in irregular stacks three or four deep were the only remaining feature to suggest that the gardens had once been a burial ground. I touched and saw them often, and even grazed my knees on them, but I never questioned their presence. Although my eyes were open they might just as well have been closed because their being there never seemed to me to be anything other than normal. My father was much more aware of them. They seemed to make him uncomfortable. He told me that they had been removed from their original individual locations because the people they had been put up in memory of had died a long time ago, so nobody came to see them anymore. Apparently the stones were smashed up and taken away in 1978 for safety reasons. Council officials were worried because children had been seen playing on them.
But I read in the Northern Echo article that the last burial to take place there was that of eighty-four-year-old Florence Gjers, the wife of a Swedish iron master. She had died in 1950, just twelve years before the cemetery had been decommissioned. There must have been families and friends who were still visiting their loved ones’ graves right up until the final weeks and days, and possibly even hours. It must have been heart-breaking for them. I suppose there were also living people with the expectation of one day being buried alongside their already deceased family members but who had to make alternative funeral arrangements.
Another remarkable discovery made by Mr Waller from the documents was the incredible symbolic artwork used when designing the graveyard’s layout. He suspected that Middlesbrough had wanted to spend some money to show off its newfound affluence. Apparently the design contained none of the usual uniformity of simple columns and rows, but twists and turns hiding special meanings such as angel wings, the letters AD, ancient gods of the Underworld, and in the centre, the Holy Grail.
Since the closure there has been no marker to say that remains of people equivalent in number to the current population of Ilfracombe lie there. Steve Waller, other historical researchers and Teesside residents have been campaigning for a blue plaque or more prominent permanent memorial to be erected in this place of so many unmarked graves.
I never liked living in Middlesbrough. To me it was a dark and dirty, noisy old place. The town was dominated by the steelworks and petrochemical plant and, even though we couldn’t see these toxic monsters from where we lived, we could see and smell the pollution that they spewed out around the clock. The fog on the Tees is all volatile organic compounds, as the old (imagined) song goes. Just as natives of Liverpool are Scousers and those born in Birmingham are Brummies, we are known as Smoggies. So I was glad that we moved away when I was eight years old. Since then the heavy industry has gone and along with it the pollution, but also the jobs and money that it generated for so long. There are much different problems there now.
Down the years I’ve met many other people from Middlesbrough who have always seemed genuinely warm, friendly, down to earth and funny. They’ve tended to look back on their no-nonsense, no-frills hometown with a lot of affection, reviving memories similar to my own. Comedian Bob Mortimer is an absolute legend in the world that spins round inside my head.
It’s more than thirty years since I was last there but my recent little trip down memory lane, sparked off by my hearing the song All My Loving in a café near where I live in Bulgaria, sent me flying back to those childhood days with my friend Patricia and her Beatle-to-be. This unexpected blast of nostalgia gave me an even more unexpected urge to return for a day or two. I particularly want to go back to Ayresome Gardens and pay my respects to the 11,000 people for whom, in my ignorance, I showed absolutely no respect six decades ago.
Image: You could be forgiven for thinking that this is the entrance to the town of Middlesbrough. Really, it’s the entrance to Middlesbrough Football Club’s old Ayresome Park Stadium which stood only 200 metres away from the house in which I lived for the first eight years of my life. It was demolished in 1997 and replaced with a small residential estate. My own photograph, of course.
Julia Breen’s article in the Northern Echo
The poem I wrote that subsequently prompted me to write about Ayresome Gardens’ dark secret
Making Do with Dusty Springfield
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Interesting research. So many
Interesting research. So many possibilities now of finding such information. I don't think the dead were troubled, but a plaque to say it is a burial ground sounds right. We must all have much to remember of things not so good, but many things to remember that were good and troubles spared. Rhiannon
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Interesting how often song
Interesting how often song titles can spark off memories, and in your case, fascinating historical research, and as you say, dark secrets.
As kids, we have no idea. Nice one, Terry x
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most people are cremated now,
most people are cremated now, graveyards are obsolete. As kids we think we're indescutable and we'll live forever, or at least until we're thirty, which was much the same thing. We were innocent. I get were you're coming from, even though it's not the same place or time, it's a piece of your mind.
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How wonderful that you were
How wonderful that you were able to go down that rabbit hole from such a distance in miles and time, and it made for a really interesting read. It's shocking that the families of the very recently deceased weren't told, and especially that the stones were removed/moved etc, but when all's said and done I don't see why anyone would mind small children using that green space in which to laugh and play (and plan their future pop star marriages)
... the cholera under the carpark is worrying though. I know people died from disturbing various mass graves when digging for the London Underground (and in other places in England)
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yes it is sad - but I think
yes it is sad - but I think cemeteries have always been used as places to drink/smoke/etc? I know it was always so in London where I grew up. I'm sure it's much worse/more prominent now
It does sound like a very special place architecturally though. 'Progress' in the 50s and 60s wasn't as considered as it is now
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Hi Turlough,
Hi Turlough,
I've seen so many places from my childhood reduced to rubble, it always saddens me, but never knowing about the disturbed graves must be traumatic. You cannot be blamed for playing on them when so young, it's the fault of the elders for allowing it to happen.
Your memories are always rich in history. To keep the recollections alive through your own experience is a wonderful idea.
Patricia's love of George Harrison reminds me of the song Frank Mills from my all time favourite stage musical Hair. I learned all the words and sang along on the numerous times I went to see Hair.
Enjoyed reading Turlough.
Jenny.
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That's so interesting! Though
That's so interesting! Though, that is a lot of bodies to put in one place! In the little graveyard where my Dad is, they started digging up the bones from older graves, to make room. Where I live now, there is a graveyard with lots of big Victorian memorials, which my son and others used to love climbing on, on the way home from pre school. Everything there is very old, no one is being buried there, now. I did worry about it being disrespectful, but the people under the stones must have become earth by now, they could be in the trees, in the grass. I love your description of climbing onto the headstones to escape being tagged :0)
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Yes, they are. There was one
Yes, they are. There was one in the nearest town where I grew up, and on the outside of its walls was all cars and rushing about and hard surfaces and pressure to buy, and inside there were butterflies and hoverflies and wildflowers.
The burial place for The Hunger is important to remember, and how many are forgotten, now.
I read this yesterday https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/57263/a-private
and thinking of Gaza, the whole place will be a graveyard before this stops, and none will be marked
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They used to describe the
They used to describe the Gaza Strip as the biggest prison in the world. The largest graveyard?
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Middlesborough has a tough
Middlesborough has a tough rep. Even now, I think it remains one of the most deprived places in the UK. I did drive through it a few years ago as part of an ancestry trip re my OH. She has family history that way. I don't suppose we consider those that have left us when we are kids. I certainly remember Ayresome Park. The Boro had a mighty footie team once and it was a tough place for opposing teams to visit. Bernie Slaven anyone...
[In other news...I watched this programme last night. I've been watching 'New Lives in the Wild' for years. Ben Fogle rocks. Anyway...this latest was about a couple who relocated from Bournemouth to Bulgaria. Their adopted country came out in a great light.
https://www.channel5.com/show/ben-fogle-new-lives-in-the-wild/season-19/...
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Nah. Not on holiday. Very
Nah. Not on holiday. Very much in the freezing UK. That profile pic update is from a past holiday. Crete, I think.
Get yerself a VPN. You can access stuff from around the world then!
The Ben Fogle, Bulgaria thing was fascinating. Bulgarian people came over as kind and yet stoical with a wry sense of humour. BF really is brilliant at what he does.
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